Common unhelpful unspoken rules for when to speak up or stay silent
- Don’t criticise something the boss has helped create.
- Don’t speak unless you have proof to back it up.
- Don’t question those higher up than you or who have been there longer.
- Don’t say negative things that may make the boss or others look bad.
- Speaking up may have career consequences.
Workplaces often have their own culture around how safe it is to speak up.
The way people are treated when they disagree, make mistakes or suggest changes sends a clear message about what is safe.
You’ll naturally wonder if it’s worth the hassle of speaking up if it feels like you’re “sticking your neck out” – even if it is something you feel is important.
Why people don’t speak up
- disrespectful or disrespected
- culturally misunderstood
- seen as incompetent
- disadvantaged at work.
How leaders respond to negative news sends a clear message of what is safe to say and what is better left unsaid.
When conversations and communications don’t show humility, reciprocity and equity, e.g. we feel talked down to, ignored or not heard, people can become anxious, feel disrespected or humiliated, leading to a culture of silence where problems cannot be raised.
How psychologically safe is your workplace
- If you make a mistake is it often held against you?
- Can you bring up problems and tough issues?
- Are people sometimes rejected for being different?
- Is your cultural perspective valued?
- It is safe to take risks?
- It is difficult to ask others for help?
- Do people act deliberately to undermine others?
- Are your unique skills and talents valued and utilised?