Support for suicide loss in New Zealand

When Greymouth parents Bronwyn Gray and Ian Richardson lost their son Liam to suicide they found they had no one to…
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Date: 17 September 2018
Support for suicide loss in New Zealand

11 May, 2017


When Greymouth parents Bronwyn Gray and Ian Richardson lost their son Liam to suicide they found they had no one to talk to who understood what they were going through.

“There were support groups for people with cancer or alcohol and drug problems but nothing for people bereaved by suicide,” says Bronwyn.

“I needed to find other people to talk to or a support group with people who had been through a similar thing but I couldn’t find one,” she says.

“A paper interviewed me and Ian for an article about Liam’s suicide and I mentioned I wanted to start a support group and one thing led to another, suddenly we had our first meeting. Over 30 people came along.”

That free support group has been running since February, 2016. They meet once a month and alternate the meetings between Hokitika and Greymouth, with some people travelling an hour and a half by car to attend.

“We’re all at different stages of grieving… I’ve met people who lost a child five or 10 years ago, and I can see that they’ve made it through and it gives me hope. It makes me realise that if they can get to where they are, I can get there too.”

Suicide bereavement support groups give people the opportunity to share their experiences of grief and loss. They are safe spaces to share stories of loved ones and give recently bereaved people the chance to talk to others who have learned to live with their loss and develop strategies to cope.

Megan's story

After losing her husband to suicide Tauranga social worker Megan Gamble was left grieving, hurt and alone. She says her family coped with his death by sweeping it under the carpet and preferred not to speak about him.

Megan was lucky to have the support of friends who became like family and they helped her to realise she didn’t have to grieve alone. She went to counselling and joined a suicide bereavement support group.

“You can empathise through your personal experience. It gives people space to open up and that may have been the first time in many years they have been able to do that.”

Today she helps run the After Suicide Support Group in Tauranga. For Megan, attending a group put her feelings of isolation to rest. She feels she’s now in the right place for herself and able to offer help to others.

Groups provide crucial support

Suicide bereavement support groups play a vital role in helping people who have lost someone to suicide. Groups are run by individuals and organisations throughout New Zealand.

The Mental Health Foundation (MHF) runs a suicide bereavement advisory service, providing information, resources and advice to help people find groups in their areas, or set up and run support groups for suicide loss. Our team work alongside a range of other services that support communities and people bereaved after a suicide.

The MHF would like to raise the profile of bereavement support groups so those who need them know they are available.

Information about suicide prevention (including helping yourself or someone you know and coping with suicide bereavement) can be found at

If you’d like interview Bronwyn or Megan or profile a local suicide bereavement support group, please contact:

Kate ChervenCommunications & Marketing OfficerMental Health Foundation021 676