Helping whānau and friends through the tough times

Managing the changes between alert levels and our whanaungatanga/relationships with each other can feel overwhelming, especially when our whānau are experiencing distressing thoughts or manawa pā and trauma at the same time.

If someone in your whānau is experiencing manawa pā/triggered thoughts and emotions, there are ways to help them through right now. They might be experiencing manawa pā for the first time or have experienced these thoughts and feelings for a while. Either way, when someone we care about is experiencing manawa pā it can be hard to know what to say or do, especially when we can’t do some of the things we used to.

To give some guidance on how to tautoko/support your loved ones through right now, we’ve pulled together some mātauranga/wisdom from tāngata/people who’ve been through traumatic experiences in the past, peer support leaders, hauora hinengāro/mental health support services, Like Minds, Like Mine and our own Research and Information Service. Below, they give some considered advice on how you can find a way through, together.